I was blessed with the beautiful gift of impatience. I’ve always known this. My family has always known this. It’s a common joke between everyone in my household. I just hate waiting. I hate waiting for texts, phone calls, rides. You name it, I hate it!
I’ve started dating again recently and have had a few revelations about myself. One being that my impatience is why I’ve been single for so long, or at least one of the many leading factors. It wasn’t easy admitting that and I’d really love to crawl under a rock and keep pretending that this isn’t true! But it is! So I’ve been doing a lot of research and have made a conscious effort into some new practices to help with my ever-so-real struggle of impatience.
So…before you venture off to some Barnes and Nobles and drop a pretty penny on some self-help books, I thought I’d share my best practices on learning how to and maintaining patience, and why its so important.
Impatience makes us do rash things and it makes us engage in very poor decisions. When you’re impatient you don’t take the time to gather the proper information and resources.
One thing I noticed with myself, is that I started to get more and more anxious. Sending a text message, and not hearing back for a few minutes or hours, and my impatience began to get the best of me. Then my thoughts would get the best of me and then there I am having a legit anxiety attack. I know that this goes much deeper, digging into my past; being cheated on has a lot to do with trusting and needing to hear back from people right away and having the sense of reassurance that everything is going to be alright. But I can’t live like that. And with researching how to accomplish patience, I first had to understand why it’s so important to have.
Instant Gratification is your enemy
When you’re like me, and not born with the gift of patience, you want instant gratification, all the time, in all things. With social media being so prevalent in our lives, we’re so prone to getting information right away. Need to know what your bestie is doing today? Check Facebook. Want to know whats going on in the news? Check Twitter. Want to see everyone’s cute little memories and moments, check Instagram. So when we have to wait, we go crazy because it’s just not in our nature to.
Patience Gives you the Quality Model of Thinking
Work takes time. Time requires patience. Patience breeds quality.
Being Impatient Breeds Negativity
When you become impatient you become stressed. You’re in a constant state of it. Patient people realize all of the positivity around them. Even when things are gloomy they’re able to dig deep within to find something to be grateful for amidst all the wrong.
So what can you do? How do you get some patience?
Check back for the next post on some ways to battle impatience and how to make your life a little easier!